If I have not been able to breastfeed my children, does that make me a bad mother? We understand how it might make you feel, but no, it doesn't make you a bad mom for any reason. Enjoy the wonderfulness of motherhood and do not get frustrated, let alone make your baby starve in a breast from which the milk it needs to be well fed does not come out, it is not your fault, calm down, because you will not lose that magical connection with your baby for not breastfeeding, their connection began from the first day it began to form in your womb.
Breastfeeding is part of the natural process of being a mother and creates a special bond between mother and child, plus it has incredible benefits for you and for him.
While your baby is receiving milk:
- The right amounts of protein, carbohydrates and fats.
- The digestive proteins, minerals, vitamins and hormones you need.
- Antibodies that keep you from getting sick.
- It becomes less prone to allergies, skin diseases, gas, diarrhea and constipation, stomach or intestinal infections, respiratory diseases, etc.
- And you're at less risk of diabetes, obesity or weight problems, sudden infant death syndrome, or tooth decay.
You not only enjoy emotional satisfaction, but also:
- You release hormones such as prolactin responsible for producing a feeling of calm and positivity that allows you to relax and focus on your child; and oxytocin, which promotes that strong sense of love and attachment between the two.
- You recover from childbirth faster and easier.
- You experience lower rates of breast and ovarian cancer later.
- Reduces the risk of developing type 2 diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, and cardiovascular disease.
- You discover that it is easier to lose weight.
- Feeling of fulfillment of you as a mother.
It is true and in general, that mothers produce the necessary amount of milk to breastfeed their babies, however, there are cases in which it is not produced or not enough to feed them, why does this happen? These are some of the causes:
- Mammary hypoplasia: when the breasts have little breast tissue to produce milk.
- Polycystic ovarian syndrome: those women who have suffered from this syndrome and have also found it difficult to conceive, may also present complications to produce the necessary amount of milk.
- Anorexia: Women who have suffered from this eating disorder prior to becoming mothers and have experienced periods without menstruation, may have little breast tissue for milk production.
- Alterations in the thyroid gland: either before or during pregnancy, it is important to control hormone levels so that they do not affect the amount of milk produced.
- Morbid obesity: women with this condition may have a delay in milk production.
- Shehann's syndrome: this affects the pituitary gland, which is responsible for the functioning of lactation and can lead to insufficient milk production.
- Placenta remains: when the placenta separates from the uterus, milk production begins, if there are remains of the retained placenta, it is possible that milk generation is less.
- Breast reduction surgeries: Reducing the size of the breasts also entails, in some cases, reducing the adequate amounts of breast milk.
If this is your case, and you want to strengthen that bond or connection with your baby, these tips can be of great help:
- Look him in the eye as you give him his bottle or bottle to reinforce that bond, so he will remember who you are and what you mean to his heart.
- Promote skin-to-skin contact through the kangaroo method, a practice that will help you regulate your baby's breathing and heart rate.
- Give him a massage, you can't imagine how much he'll enjoy it and laugh
- Listen to his heart like you did during ultrasounds. Enjoy its rhythm and evolution.
But, there is something else we haven't talked about, what about sexuality at this stage? As we have already said, during lactation there is a high secretion of the hormone prolactin that also causes a decrease in the hormone testosterone and therefore decreases libido. It is known as a "false menopause" because there is an absence of menstruation and a lack of vaginal lubrication due to the low presence of estrogen (something that can cause pain during intercourse).
With the passage of time, everything will return to its place and you will recover your desire, sexuality is an intrinsic part of our being, so while that happens, learn to understand your body at each stage and follow these recommendations:
- Do not avoid physical proximity with your partner. Hugs and caresses should always be welcome. So that this does not happen, we recommend our book Intimately Powerful , which contains incredible tools that can help increase desire and improve the relationship with your partner during this period of lactation.
- If you think your partner feels left out by the new baby, talk to them about their emotions and feelings so they don't lead to confusion, misunderstandings, or estrangement.
- If you feel pain during intercourse, use a good lubricant; our Female Moisturizing Gel with Hyaluronic Acid is 10/10 because in addition to avoiding vaginal dryness and pain during intercourse, it hydrates, regenerates and rejuvenates your intimate area.
- Do not set yourself goals that are too high, remember that your body has changed and it will take time to adapt, meanwhile, do not forget the essentials: follow your routine of care and cleaning of your intimate area; remember that you can do it with the Feminine Cleansing Foam , a multipurpose and multipurpose product that you are going to love because its formula cleans delicately and without detergents, hydrates and controls the strong odor in your V zone, in addition to preventing the darkening of your vulva and vaginal area.
- Prevent urinary incontinence and prolapses after childbirth with VagiYoga , an excellent tool to strengthen your pelvic floor, add creativity to your sexual life and improve your mood.
Definitely, breastfeeding is a ritual of love that feeds mother and child inside and out while it is attached to your chest, hugging you and receiving a hug from you in return, and although not all mothers can live this experience, for whatever the reason, that connection will always be present in other ways, remember that each mom has a different experience, so avoid getting carried away by social pressure because you are already a unique and special mom.