When was the Last time you Enjoyed an Orgasm? Here we give you the Ultimate Guide

August 8th is Orgasm Day, a day dedicated to recognizing and promoting the importance of sexual pleasure in people's lives. This day provides us with the perfect opportunity to talk openly about orgasm, debunk myths, and offer practical advice to improve the sexual experience.

Where is pleasure on your list of priorities? Probably last, if it's on the list at all. And that's totally normal in a society that only wants us to be successful and productive.

How about putting orgasm first on the list today? Here you will find techniques, tips and recommendations that will allow you to discover new ways to enjoy sex and enhance your sexual well-being. Get ready to explore, learn and enjoy!

Guide to Achieving Orgasms More Often

1. Know Yourself

You are responsible for your own sexuality and your pleasure. If we start from this idea, then the first thing we need to achieve in order to achieve more and better orgasms is a detailed knowledge of ourselves and what we like.

• Self-Exploration: Take time to explore your own body. Not only will this help you get to know yourself better, but it will also allow you to communicate your needs to your partner.
• Regular Masturbation: Masturbation is not only a healthy way to release tension, but it is also a great way to discover what turns you on and how you prefer to achieve orgasm. If you are alone and even if you have a partner, it is important to masturbate and give yourself some time to yourself because what turns you on, the speed, fantasies, all of that changes over time and it is always important to stay in tune with yourself.

2. Open Communication with your Partner

• Talk about your desires: Don't be afraid to tell your partner what you like and what you don't. Open and honest communication can significantly improve your sex life. Find the right moment and turn the conversation into a moment of intimacy that benefits both of you.
• Positive Feedback: Give your partner positive feedback when they do something you like. This not only reinforces their behavior, but also strengthens the emotional connection.

3. Foreplay and Excitement

• Extend Foreplay: Don't underestimate the power of foreplay. Spend time cuddling, kissing, and massaging to increase arousal before sex. One of the biggest secrets to improving lubrication is to spend plenty of time on foreplay.
• Multisensory Stimulation: Use different stimuli such as aromas, soft music or dim lights to create a relaxing and exciting environment. Learn what type of stimulation you like (stimulation is NOT always obtained through touch) and identify if you enjoy visual, oral, auditory, sensory, or olfactory stimulation. Each person is different and if you identify what type of situation you enjoy the most, it will help you achieve more pleasure. What type of lighting, what sheets, what smells, what textures, where you like to be touched, it is a set of elements that can enhance the experience.

4. Techniques of breathing and relaxation

• Deep Breathing: Practice deep breathing to relax and increase sensitivity. Proper breathing can improve blood circulation and increase arousal.
• Muscle Relaxation: Before having sex, perform muscle relaxation exercises to release any tension that may interfere with your ability to achieve orgasm.

5. Positions that Promote Orgasm for Women Who Do Not Achieve It Through Vaginal Penetration

Many women find it difficult to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. Stimulation of the clitoris, which contains numerous nerve endings, is crucial for many. Here are some positions that can help stimulate the clitoris and promote orgasm:

• Cowgirl: The woman sits on top of her partner, facing him. This position allows the woman to control the pace, depth, and angle of penetration. It also facilitates clitoral stimulation, either through friction against her partner's body or with her hand.
• Reverse Cowgirl: Similar to cowgirl, but the woman sits with her back to her partner. This offers a different angle for penetration and allows the woman to lean forward or back to find the most pleasurable position. It also makes it easier to access clitoral stimulation with the hand.
• Elevated Missionary: The man is on top, but with a pillow or cushion placed under the woman's hips. Elevating the woman's pelvis changes the angle of penetration, which can increase G-spot stimulation. Additionally, the man can use his hand to stimulate the clitoris.
• Doggy Style with Clitoral Stimulation: The woman gets on all fours while her partner penetrates her from behind. This position allows for deep penetration and can stimulate the G-spot. To increase clitoral stimulation, the woman or her partner can use a hand or a vibrator.
• Spooning: Both partners lie on their sides, with the man behind the woman. This is an intimate position that allows for gentle penetration. The man has access to stimulate the clitoris with his hand or a sex toy while he penetrates his partner.
• The Lotus: Both partners sit facing each other, with their legs intertwined. This position allows for a deep emotional connection and facilitates manual stimulation of the clitoris. Additionally, the woman can move around to find the most pleasurable angle.
• Tandem (Scissors): Both partners lie on their sides in a scissor position, with their legs intertwined. This position offers a unique angle for penetration and facilitates direct contact with the clitoris for manual stimulation.
• The Bridge: The woman lies on her back with her legs bent and feet flat on the floor, raising her hips while the man kneels between her legs. Raising the hips can change the angle of penetration and make it easier to stimulate the clitoris with the hand.
• The Anvil: The woman lies on her back and raises her legs, resting them on her partner's shoulders. This allows for deep penetration and changes the angle for greater stimulation of the G-spot. Additionally, the man can stimulate the clitoris with his hand.
• Butterfly: The woman lies on her back on the edge of the bed with her legs in the air while her partner stands or kneels. This position allows good access to the clitoris for manual stimulation or with a vibrator.

6. Using Sex Toys

• Adding Toys: Vibrators and other sex toys can be a great help in achieving orgasm. Don't hesitate to incorporate them into your sexual routine, whether alone or with your partner. At Zenzsual we have a toy specially designed to stimulate three points: clitoris, vaginal stimulation and anal stimulation. The Triorgasmic can bring a lot of variety to the bedroom and if you are trying to achieve better orgasms, this vibrator can definitely be a great help.
• Dual Stimulation: Consider using toys that offer both internal and external stimulation simultaneously, such as rabbit vibrators.

7. Kegel exercises

• Pelvic Floor Strengthening: Kegel exercises can strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can improve the intensity of your orgasms. If you do them correctly and with discipline, you will not only improve your posture and control urine leakage, but you will also have a better sexual experience.
• Regular Practice: Perform Kegel exercises regularly to keep these muscles in good shape.
• Using Zenzsual VagiYoga: VagiYoga is a tool designed to combine the benefits of Kegel exercises with yoga. Using Zenzsual VagiYoga can help you effectively strengthen and tone your pelvic floor, thus improving your ability to achieve more intense orgasms.

8. Proper Lubrication

Use of Lubricants: Make sure you are well lubricated. Vaginal dryness can make it difficult to have an orgasm, so don't hesitate to use water-based lubricants to improve comfort and pleasure. You can now find long-lasting lubricants for more intense and/or friction-filled sex. Our LONG LASTING Feminine Moisturizing Gel with hyaluronic acid is ideal for providing the necessary moisture to the area for a long time and also enhancing the natural pH of the vagina with the properties of hyaluronic acid.

9. Mindfulness and Focus

• Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness during sex to be fully present in the moment and enjoy every sensation.
• Sensory Focus: Focus on the physical and emotional sensations you are experiencing rather than worrying about achieving orgasm.

10. Consult an Expert

• Sex Therapy: If you still have difficulty achieving orgasm despite trying these techniques, consider consulting a sex therapist. They can offer personalized guidance and strategies to improve your sex life.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) about Orgasm

1. Is it normal not to reach orgasm with vaginal penetration alone?
• Yes, it is completely normal. Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, as the clitoris contains many more nerve endings than the vagina.
2. How can I communicate to my partner what I like sexually?
• Open and honest communication is key. You can start by talking about your likes and needs outside the bedroom to create an environment of trust. During sex, use positive feedback and guide your partner with gentle words or movements.
3. Do Kegel exercises really improve orgasms?
• Yes, Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can increase the intensity and frequency of orgasms. Tools like the Zenzsual's VagiYoga can be especially helpful in maximizing the benefits.
4. How can I stay relaxed and present during sex?

• Mindfulness and Deep Breathing: Practicing mindfulness helps you be fully present in the moment. Focus on the physical and emotional sensations you are experiencing. Deep breathing can also help relax the body and mind, enhancing the sexual experience.
• Eliminate Distractions: Make sure you create a comfortable, distraction-free environment. Turn off your phone, dim the lights, and choose a place where you feel safe and relaxed.
• Emotional Connection: Maintain open communication with your partner and focus on emotional connection. Feeling emotionally close to your partner can help you be more present and enjoy the moment.

Does masturbating mean I'm cheating?

• No, it's not cheating: Masturbation is a healthy way to explore your own body and better understand your sexual preferences. It doesn't mean you're cheating on your partner.
• Relationship Benefits: It can even benefit your relationship, as knowing your own body better can help you communicate your needs and desires to your partner more effectively.
• Open Communication: If you have any concerns about masturbation and its impact on your relationship, talk openly with your partner. Honest communication can strengthen trust and intimacy between you both.

 Is there a limit to the number of times it is good to masturbate?

• There is no set limit: There is no specific amount of times that is considered "normal" or "healthy" to masturbate. The appropriate frequency varies from person to person. The important thing is that masturbation does not interfere with your daily responsibilities, your social life, or your relationship. If you feel that you are masturbating excessively, consider whether you are using masturbation to cope with stress or other emotional problems.

Implementing these techniques and tips can help you reach orgasm more often and enjoy a more satisfying and fulfilling sex life. Celebrate Orgasm Day by exploring and discovering new forms of pleasure!

Sources consulted:

Doctors Sofia Herrera and Klara Senior

Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure. Dr Emily Morse

13 Reasons Every Woman Should Masturbate (Besides The Obvious) | Allure

How to Masturbate for Women: 28 Tips for Positions, Orgasms, and Toys (healthline.com)

Sex Video on How a Woman Reaches Orgasm (webmd.com)