Have you ever felt like an alien just because you'd rather read a good book or go to bed than have sex with your partner? Let me tell you that you are not the only one.
The older we get (read “big” not old), we know our bodies and our preferences in bed better, and we also become more demanding. But to this situation we must add that our body continues to change, bringing with it some not so pleasant natural consequences that complicate the matter.
This is confirmed by a 2015 study published by the journal "Endocrinology & Metabolism Clinics of North America" which concluded that "sexual dysfunction increases with age and is very common among menopausal women." He explains that after the arrival of menopause, women begin to have less sexual relations, either because they don't feel like it or because they feel less pleasure, among other causes that are out of our hands.
There is no reason to be alarmed , since it is something common. A study in the "Journal of Sexual Medicine" showed that at least 70% of the women who participated in the research, aged between 40 and 65, claimed to have less and less desire to have sex.
Although it is not present in all women equally , it is the natural aging of our body that triggers some physiological problems, such as vaginal dryness and changes in estrogen levels, which cause our sexual relations to be more difficult or less pleasurable from menopause onwards.
But don't worry, we are here to give you the necessary tools and help you achieve a pleasant intimate life, even after menopause, because it is possible.
Follow these tips to activate sexual desire
If you already begin to suffer from a lack of desire, it is time to activate yourself and pay attention to our recommendations, which will allow you to revive your libido naturally and recover the well-being and happiness that being able to have pleasant intimate relationships produces. The important thing about all this is that it is a situation that can be solved with the consultation of your trusted gynecologist (to make sure that everything is going well with your sexual health) and the advice that we offer you at Zenzsual to follow some changes in your routine.
Take advantage of the resources you have at hand:
- Take advantage of your main sexual organ: the brain. How can you do it? Here some ideas:
- Prepare the best scenario: relax, put aside thoughts of pending tasks or worries and focus on the moment you want to live. It doesn't take much to enjoy, just being with the person you want and mentally preparing yourself to have a good time.
- Innovation can surprise you! why not try new places, new positions, new underwear, new smells and flavors. Or just remember those moments that drove you crazy, when you fell in love or noticed that person or when you were younger and just starting your sexual experience.
- Stimulate your senses: Like any situation in life, we always lean towards what we like the most: in a restaurant, in a clothing store or in the cinema. It also applies to sex, start by stimulating the sense that gives you the most pleasure.
- For example:
- Sight: If you are a very visual person, the image and presence that you and your partner have is very important, choose your underwear, your sheets well, have some sensual photos or an erotic movie on hand. Take care of the details that your eyes will enjoy to activate you.
- The ear: If music changes your mood, take advantage of that and play good music that excites and provokes you. Try your headphones and start now to put together your list of songs for sex.
- Smell: If in your case love enters through your nose, don't forget to wear the perfume you like, light incense or some delicious scented candles: cinnamon, vanilla, jasmine, sandalwood, orange blossom, musk or raspberry, these are some of the most popular fragrances at the time of intimacy.
- Touch: pay attention to what you touch, the parts of the body, their textures and shapes. Close your eyes and let yourself be carried away by your hands and the sensations that pass through your skin. Maybe a previous massage will relax you and put you in the mental state you need.
- If the environment causes you stress , it blocks your eroticism and distracts you from the moment. Get out of the routine room, try another place in the house or rather move away from the place of worries and look for an area that relaxes you like the beach, the forest or the jungle. Use what is within your reach.
- Ask for that little mouth : do not be ashamed to suggest to your partner the things that you would like to do and that they do to you or simply those that make you curious.
- Eat a good diet : reduce excessive sugar consumption and prefer foods rich in Zinc, which are considered aphrodisiacs. Among the best known are oysters, liver, meat (beef or lamb), whole grains, sunflower, pumpkin or watermelon seeds (patilla), all bright green vegetables, peanuts, etc.
- Exercise: maintaining a balanced weight is key to activating your libido, it also helps you level your hormones, and without a doubt, you will be able to have greater agility. Also, something very important is that you include Kegel exercises in your daily routine, to strengthen your pelvic floor and improve sensitivity and pleasure in the genital area.
At Zenzsual we help you improve your libido with these tools:
- Use an intimate gel daily : If you feel vaginal dryness, you see that your lips are more wrinkled and aged, you do not lubricate enough, the continuous rubbing of underwear or during sex bothers and irritates you; you need to moisturize your vaginal lips. Start using a quality intimate gel daily, which contains a lot of hyaluronic acid like Zenzsual's to restore it to its natural state and make everything slide easily during intimacy.
- Try LibiZenzs , a libido booster or dietary supplement that we proudly create at Zenzsual for women, produced with top quality components and active ingredients that activate your energy and balance your hormonal levels, such as: Maca Root, Korean Ginseng Tribulus Terrestris, Tongka Ali, Horny Goat Weed, Ashwagandha Root and Zinc (no hormones).
- On our website you will find the VagiYoga vaginal exerciser , an easy-to-use device that helps you make a diagnosis to guide your Kegel Exercises correctly and keep track of your routines and your progress in strengthening the muscles of your intimate area.
Take advantage of this article as an excuse to promote new sexual relationships in which you can try these tips, and finally, find the ideal combination to boost your libido and reactivate your sexual life, even if you are already over 40.
Information sources :
Dr. Klara Senior ( @klarasenior )
Dr. Sofía Herrera ( @tu_ginecologa )